I was skeletal. It seemed like it happened overnight. The confusion controlled me, it controlled everything. My body couldn’t even tell me it was hungry anymore. I would honestly forget to eat. One of the most basic human functions, simply overlooked. People noticed. Even though I would smile and say everything was great, I couldn’t hide the fact that something was very wrong. My slight figure irritated him, I was showing off my misery. It made him look bad. “Eat,” he said, placing a bowl of ice cream in front of me. I didn’t want it, it didn’t matter.
“You should get yourself some cookies, too. I like a girl with a little meat on her bones”. His accent was thick, exactly what you would expect someone who grew up in New York City to sound like. It flowed out of his mouth the way air bubbles out of a pot of thick, simmering marinara sauce. Like most severe American accents, it didn’t present a refined or intellectual persona. It made him sound tough, sometimes it was really pronounced…especially when he was angry.
I used to love the sound of his voice, not anymore. It was either judging or scolding me. He never said anything nice. “You had a gut when I met you. Your ass is gone. What happened? Do you have an eating disorder? You need to eat,” he said from the other end of the couch. I didn’t have a gut when we met. It made me so mad when he spoke about my body, it wasn’t like he was a fitness model. He had a gut when I met him, he had a gut as he criticized me, he has a gut now. He didn’t acknowledge his flaws, but he pointed out mine every chance he got.
He slid over, closer to me. He was trying to show me he was concerned. “God, I can’t even sit next to you. Your hip bones are stabbing me.” I didn’t want him to sit next to me, I was thankful that I repulsed him. “Maybe you should go to that therapist. You’re acting all crazy”. I had been contemplating going to a therapist for a while. Maybe I was crazy. Maybe I did need to speak to a professional.
“What are you thinking? I can never tell what’s on your mind. I feel like I’m always walking on eggshells around you.” He had been really concerned about my thoughts lately, he made it sound like I betrayed him if I didn’t share every idea that popped into my head. I smiled, it was involuntary. “What’s so funny?” he barked. “Nothing,” I mumbled. I knew what was coming, it wasn’t going to be pleasant.
It didn’t matter what I was thinking, whatever I said would be used against me. What I was really thinking was, “You’re the one with the family history of mental illness. You’re the one with the sister that voluntarily committed herself to a psychiatric hospital for shock treatments. You’re the one who’s moods cause everyone to walk on eggshells”. But, if I said what I was thinking, I’d just be pouring gasoline on a raging inferno.
“You’re projecting,” slipped out from between my lips. I don’t know why I said that…why couldn’t I have just thanked him for the ice cream and be done with it? “I don’t know what that means, Penelope.” He always called me by my first name when I displeased him, making me hate the sound of it. I wanted to take it away from him and forbid him from ever using it again. There was no avoiding his wrath; I wouldn’t be able to diffuse the situation, I knew this. “Google it, Edward,” I spat back. “You always use those big words to confuse me. Why do you have to be such a bitch? You do it to make me feel stupid,” he was yelling.
He positioned himself a few inches from my face. I stopped listening after he called me a “cunt”. I hate that word, almost as much as I hate him. I knew he’d start throwing things next, this was the way our arguments went. I closed my eyes and tried to pretend I was somewhere else, the chill of melting chocolate ice cream that puddled in my lap brought me back to reality. “Look what you made me do?” he screamed. Involuntarily making people throw food at me was a talent I didn’t know I had.
I didn’t think “projecting” was a large word, nor did I feel I had to homogenize my vocabulary to communicate. This is a man that would proudly announce the many college degrees he earned and claimed that one of them was in social work. In his studies, he should have amassed a vocabulary above a third grade level. Surely, you must be required to take a psychology class or two to earn this degree. Even if he was absent the day they discussed “projecting” he could have fallen asleep on the couch during an episode of Dr. Phil and absorbed the definition. This degree was fabricated, just like his accent.
Teddy is from Upstate New York, not New York City. There are no skyscrapers, there are no subways, and there is no accent. He was playing a character, and he was doing it poorly. I wondered how many people he tried this out on before me. I was starting to see through his facade. He knew it, he was growing more violent by the day. He stormed out of the house and slammed the door, leaving me to clean up the aftermath of his tantrum.
As I wiped the sticky residue off of my legs, I fantasized about getting a phone call telling me he’d been in a fatal motorcycle accident. I had to get away from him, this relationship was killing me.